Monthly Archives: December 2014

NLP, Hypnotherapy and The Lightning Process in action

One year ago this week I became challenged in my life to a level I’ve seldom experienced. My beloved grandmother died at the grand age of 107, a beloved family member vented at me as a target of apparently suppressed anger, and a friend whom I considered to be a very good friend ‘dumped me’ in a text. The intense grief I experienced as a consequence of these events resulted in bringing in the New Year with a slipped disc and a year of grief healing. Add into the mix my husband being made redundant and my mother being diagnosed with cancer you have a great story line for EastEnders: And it’s all true.  

Now, please don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining, quite the opposite, as it’s only through these experiences in life that we can grow and understand ourselves inwardly to understand what makes us stronger. Through this year’s journey I’ve realised more than ever how important NLP, hypnotherapy and the Lightning Process training programme are to me.  I’ve been able to focus on the people that really matter to me and focus on what’s really important to me in my life and the lives of those I cherish, whilst respecting others choices, even when I don’t agree with them, and moving forward on my fabulous journey: LIFE!  

Throughout all of these events I have used the Lightning Process, as this is the wonderful thing about this training, it works on everything!  Well, ok – it might not bring about world peace, end world famine and restore the economy – or could it? 

The Lightning Process works on mind body connections, and our ability to influence these to work in our favour, in a helpful way.  So when I was torn apart by the grief of my grandmother dying, I could focus on the areas that I could change: the funeral and remembering all the wonderful times we had had together.  The same for my family member and my friend: focus on the good times we had and recognise that I cannot change the way they chose to feel about me.

 My husband losing his job opened up a river of possibilities for us to pursue and by focusing on what this gave us, we couldn’t possibly mourn the loss of a corporate salary and life style. 

As for my mother getting Cancer, well as frightful as this is it still comes down to the same thing: focus your energy on what you have the control over, accept the things you can’t change and offer her all the help I could from my bed.  This is did with copious amounts of NLP, mind body connection hypnotherapy CD’s and messages.   And thankfully she has come through it, I am pleased to say.  

The slipped disc was a challenge though, as I used the process to support healing and it just wasn’t doing so and I therefore sought the master: Phil Parker.  He reminded me that all healing was possible and we simply need to give our bodies what they need to repair and I realised that I wasn’t doing this, as I was still hurting from the recent events.  So now it was time to use the grief process within hypnotherapy and yes, that helped a lot! The understanding that I cannot lose what I had with these people meant they will always be with me.  It’s simply a gentle parting of the ways along life’s journey.  Now my body just needed the time to heal, with some good mind and body work within the Lightning Process, and hypnotherapy, I really have so nearly achieved this that it genuinely feels like a miracle.  

And now what about the NLP? Well that’s easy to explain.  There are 10 main principles of NLP of which a few are: 

Every behaviour is useful in some context.

Every negative action has a positive intention.

In any system, the element with the most flexibility exerts the most influence.  

Remembering these three key concepts meant that I was able to accept the behaviour of those around me.  When my friend sent the text, this clearly was useful to her in some way and brought about her own positive intention:  Likewise my family member.  It is not for me to understand their positive intentions; it is for me to show the flexibility to influence my own life to a better end.  

Over the past year I have studied for my Masters in NLP and Advanced Hypnotherapy and Lightning Process.  This I am very proud of as I feel I truly have achieved miracles out of what could have been a devastating year.  

To sum up I have used:

Hypnotherapy for – pain relief, grief healing, supporting mind body connections with my mother’s Cancer

NLP for – understanding some challenging human behaviour

Lightning Process for – slipped disc, mind body connections for emotional strength and calm. 

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Take care till next time.



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Networking, Friends and Family

Over the past week I have had the pleasure of meeting some wonderful people at my first ever networking group, enjoyed a wonderful day indulging in the delights of Belgium and my wonderful Belgium travel buddies, and spent some quality time with my youngest cooking a meal and laughing as we did when he was young and his troubles were small.

As a consequence I find myself feeling quite relaxed and smiling a lot, for no obvious reason and this I take to be the power of good friends, good food and good times.

It has become increasingly important to me to develop my hypnotherapy business further, and to promote the Lightning Process as much as I can, as this is something which I am passionate about and truly believe that everyone would benefit from the life skills contained within, not only poorly people.  For this reason, I embarked on my first ever networking group!  I decided to tread carefully and went to a group called Viva networking, which is also known as mums unlimited and came highly recommended.  Whilst its primary target was women, men are more than welcome to join and their focus is supporting small businesses and growth. The topic for the day was a guest speaker talking about blogging – well that was just what I needed so I booked on and went along to spend a couple of wonderful hours in the company of some of the most inspirational women I have met!  I simply had no idea there were so many small businesses out there, with such a diversity of focus!!  I met a lady who supports the less confident in their dressing needs:, the pampered chef, Joanne Todd with some delightful fudge – yum yum, the pregnancy genie who will support you through pregnancy to 6 weeks old and many more besides.  They were a highly motivated and lovely group of woman whom I much look forward to meeting again.

The guest speaker was ‘actually mummy’ who became a professional blogger after writing a blog herself about her days as a mum.  She was highly knowledgeable and informative about the art of blogging, and didn’t once cause me to feel silly with all my questions – thank you!  She is the reason I am now so disciplined in writing my weekly blog, and really hope you are enjoying reading it.  I certainly am enjoying writing it and receiving the positive feedback I have so far.  Thank you all for your support.


So then it was off to Belgium for an indulgent day of good food and Belgium Beer.  We were fortunate enough to arrive at the Westveleteran Abbey in time to purchase a couple of boxes plus partake in breakfast comprising of bread, cheese and a Westveleteran 12: it had to be doneJ  whenever we go on these days out, I find myself completely lost in the moment of great company, great food and beer.  I consider myself truly blessed to call these people my friends and very much look forward to our next visit, which I believe will be a weekend trip!

Finally to the time spent with my youngest son.  He is a truly troubled soul with complex learning needs and mental health issues.  His journey has not been an easy one and has caused many challenges which I believe have made us so much stronger as individuals and as a family.  Having finally received a diagnosis of his condition and medication that actually works, he is calmer and more focused, and performing well in the world.  He came to the house and cooked wonderful roast potatoes to go with the pie I was cooking and we sat down with his step father and his girlfriend to a lovely meal which was enjoyed by us all.  We laughed, and were relaxed in a way that we haven’t experienced in years, and for this I am truly grateful.

So all in all I have had a week of appreciating people who are inspirational, fun, and empowering through their sharing of the gift of friendship. 

And my closing wish to you all is to emerge yourself in the moment and enjoy some good friends, good food, good times. This certainly is the best time of year to do this, and notice how good you feel as a result. 

I look forward to hearing your good times stories.


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