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Don’t let the ‘should’ get you down!

In Mental Health Awareness week:

How many times in a day do we use the word ‘should’? You should’ve washed up; they should’ve checked first; I should’ve done that yesterday.

This week I seem to have used, and heard, this word a lot and came to question – what does it even mean?

Currently an extension is being built on my house and when the building inspector came to sign off the footings he declined saying that the apple tree was less than 2 metres from the footings and therefore the footings were to go deeper.  Whilst there were no visible roots, and this had a financial implication for me, and a logistical nightmare for the builders due to the fact that there was now a big hole where they needed to place the digger, it is his job to ensure the rules are followed for good reason and so we accepted our fate. 

Now, it occurred to me that the apple tree had been drawn on the plans and therefore asked why this hadn’t been picked up upon the application for building regs: thus saving the shocking additional cost and logistical nightmare for the builders.  He declined to answer giving me a politician’s response about ‘anything could show up once builders start digging, so we check at this stage’.  But the tree was a given, we ‘should have’ been told from the start that we would require double footings.  The conversation was going nowhere, both believing ourselves to be right, and left me feeling rather frustrated that he ‘should have’ seen my point and he ‘should have’ answered my question. 

Now, full of frustration I decided to go to my fitness class to cool off, and guess what… 19 people turned up with only 13 booked on: too many for the pool and hindered my normally great class:- they ‘should’ve’ booked on, ensuring the instructor wasn’t overbooked and members could enjoy the class.

Come the evening, students concerned with their upcoming exams claiming: they ‘should’ have more time: the teacher’s ‘should’ have taught them better: the government ‘shouldn’t’ have changed the exams.

Trump ‘shouldn’t’ threaten Korea; Theresa May ‘shouldn’t’ call an early election; we ‘shouldn’t’ exit the EU.

The list is endless…

The problem with the ‘should’ is that we address issues which we have no control over: I couldn’t control the building inspector; I couldn’t control the members at the pool; we can’t control the government.  So, if we can’t control things, is there any point worrying about them?  The other point to consider is whether it is factually true, or is it an opinion?

Well of course, it’s clear that these are all individuals’ opinions and they are neither right nor wrong: they’re opinions.  They are individuals’ opinions on what they believe to be right or wrong and of course, don’t make us as that individual right. 

Beliefs are what define us in the world.  They are formed throughout our lives and create our own limitations and ultimate prisons.  Some reading this, who have done the Lightning Process™ course, will be saying ‘yeah, we know’ and maybe the bigger question here is not ‘what does should really mean’, but ‘why do let the ‘should’ get us down?’  The answer is ‘we ‘shouldn’t’!  And there you have it – it’s a choice.  So the next time the ‘should’ gets you down – stand back and ask whether this is really worth getting upset about – or whether it’s better to say NO!  I choose to address my belief and move on.

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Intro to St Albans!

Introducing Elizabeth

Your Hypnotherapist and Lightning Process trainer now at:

 Ginger Natural Health, St. Albans.

After recovering from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS/ME) using Hypnotherapy, Life coaching and Osteopathy principles, I have made it my life’s work to focus on relaxing the nervous system in others, in order to achieve a full mind and body calmness.  Only when we achieve this, can we fully appreciate full health and wellbeing, no matter what life throws at us.

Today I deliver Lightning Process® seminars (LP), designed to achieve this calm in all situations more on Lightning Process Seminars, and it does work surprisingly well with auto immune dysfunctions such as CFS/ME.  I have also been clear of migraines since completing the training! In addition to this, as a qualified English teacher, I engage with teaching English to secondary school students and above.  For those who experience exam nerves, stress and anxiety, they can also benefit from hypnotherapy: plus many more negative behaviours more on hypnotherapyLife Coaching more on life coaching  and NLP more on NLP underpin all of my work and for those with overweight issues there is the Hynoband Gastric band More on Hypnoband Gastricband

So there really is something for everyone, and I very much look forward to meeting with you over the next month as you engage in one of the following offers!

Introductory offers

  • Introductory offer on all hypnotherapy more on hypnotherapy sessions booked at Ginger, a 20% discount will apply until the end of September 2015, in addition to the free 30 minute consultation.

Hypnotherapy can help with a multitude of issues and behaviours that we might like to change.  Here are some examples that may be of concern just now:

    • Phobias – this year has seen an abundance of spiders.  Hypnotherapy can help with this among other phobias
    • Anxiety – whether the children are starting school, starting a new school or academic year, as a parent we are naturally anxious for our little ones.  Hypnotherapy can help you maintain the necessary calm to help you to help them enjoy the transitions
    • Weight – it is easy to gain a few pounds in the summer with all the marvellous holiday foods, and now is just the right time to get back on track. Whether you are a choc-a-holic, or a fitness phobe; hypnotherapy can help.
  • Free talks on the Lightning Process®

Whether you suffer with an auto-immune disorder, or feel that you are not the person you used to be and would like to be ‘better’, ‘more energised’, then the Lightning Process® training can help.  Come to one of the free talks set up for September and see how.  Spaces are limited so do please book your place in advance. more about the Lightning Process

        • Sunday 6th September @ 11am
        • Sunday 20th September @ 10am
  • Lightning Process Seminar – Ginger Natural Health
        • Sunday 11th – Tuesday 13th

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